I was sitting in a bar a few years ago in a rut.
I’d been in the same
place in Chicago for a while. My career was a little stuck and I was bored.
And I heard the
guitar player start to sing, “Joe’s run off, to Fire Lake.”
It’s a great old song
by Bob Seger. Bikers love it in particular. It’s about adventure. Longing. The
open road.
Something changed for me that day. It was like the call of
the wild.
Suddenly I knew I had to stir things up a little.
Two months later, I
landed in New Zealand.
But more on that
later.
There has been plenty
of research on how the places in our lives affect our happiness, serenity, and
inner peace. Almost everyone I know has a “happy place” somewhere in the world.
As a kid for me, it was at Ecola State Park in Cannon Beach. Pictured here.
I recently read a
book about the innate human longing to be near the water called “Blue Mind: The
Surprising Science That Shows How Being Near, In, On, or Under Water Can Make
You Happier, Healthier, More Connected, and Better at What You Do.”
It talks
about how much more peaceful we feel being around water, and the psychological
benefits of finding this. Many people throughout human history have drifted towards the water,
in many cases for economic reasons. But this book shows there is a lot more to
it. I mean we are mostly MADE of the stuff. I bet a lot of people will
almost innately understand the relationship between water and their emotional
well-being. It seems to be almost wired into us.
Of course, it doesn’t
HAVE to be water. Maybe for you, it’s the mountains. Or the desert. Maybe it’s
your local park. Wherever it is, I bet it’s a place where you feel better. Take
a little break from your worries. Think a little more clearly. Even doctors are getting hip to this nowadays. Here's a fantastic clip about a Bellingham doctor who prescribes park visits instead of pills!
Park visits instead of pills!
Park visits instead of pills!
I once did this little exercise where you had to review your
life and find the themes and activities that kept popping up for you that made
you happy. Maybe as a kid, you loved to draw and paint, and kept coming back to
it at various times in your life. Maybe it was making music. You get the idea.
But for me, it was
always traveling. I’ve had that wanderlust since I was a child. The desire to
see more, do more, explore more. It’s never stopped. I worked in five different
national parks in my twenties, and even that didn’t scratch the itch. It’s a
kind of longing. Anticipation. Hope.
Many people describe
having had “peak” experiences in nature. Peak experiences are often described
as transcendent moments of pure joy and elation. These are moments that stand
out from everyday events. The memory of these events linger in our minds for a
long time, and can even feel like a kind of spiritual experience. Peak Experiences
I’ve certainly had a
few. One that stands out came during a hike to the very bottom of the Grand
Canyon. Although I was alone, totally exhausted and physically depleted, I
looked around and saw where I was. I realized how far I’d come, but also how
much more there was to do in my life. I felt this powerful surge of energy that
is still hard to explain. It was joy. Vibrancy. Exuberance.
These moments can sometimes be harder to find as we get
older. Life intervenes. Holidays might turn into theme parks, minivans, and
screaming kids. Work gets more intense. Money issues linger. All of a sudden we
have perhaps lost sight of that primal need to be in nature once in a while.
I suspect this is how
a lot of ruts get their start. Watch a Labrador when it gets near water. It
will dive in head first and ask questions later. That’s primal.
And I submit that we
humans have this need as well.
How do I know?
I recently went
through another one of these “rut” periods.
And once again, I
listened to the call of the wild.
So if you can’t reach
me at the moment, I’ll be back on the open road. Not all who wander are lost. I
think it’s just the opposite of being lost. It’s more like finding something
again.
But in the meantime,
I hope you find YOUR happy place in nature again. Spend some time there.
Reconnect with this part of yourself.
And as for me?
Joe's run off to Fire Lake...